Narcissistic fathers tell their daughters that they aren’t good enough, and make it clear that nothing they do will ever be enough to please them. The Children Of Narcissistic Parents Whether the dynamic is father-daughter, mother-son, son-father, or daughter-mother, the damage narcissistic can wreck on their children is considerable. Superiority – Narcissistic fathers have an inflated sense of self and will project upon their children that they are superior in every way. Learning that we have basic needs and rights seems like a rudimentary step, but it’s actually one of the most important milestones children of narcissistic parents can achieve. Part of the difficulty daughters of narcissistic mothers face is the myth that every mother is selfless. Daughters of narcissistic fathers have a number of unhappy things in common with one another. Narcissistic fathers tell their daughters that they aren’t good enough, and make it clear that nothing they do will ever be enough to please them.
1) Children Get Ignored. For many women, this ‘disloyalty’ and the possibility that they will be disbelieved, chided, or blamed, for their mothers’ behaviour means that they don’t discuss it – which can keep them feeling isolated. For example, they may disregard boundaries, manipulate their children by withholding affection (until they perform), and neglect to meet their children’s needs because their needs come first. Manipulation – Manipulation is the most common trait in the narcissist. Narcissistic parents often damage their children. Lives through their child – This is the father who expects their child to follow their footsteps (take up the same career, go to the same college, take the same jobs) and/or accomplishes the dreams the father did not. In public, they may be seen praising their children or speaking positively about them, but it’s all a show to hide the truth and to make the father appear to be a good father in the public eye.
How a Narcissistic Father Can Hurt His Son or Daughter: Narcissistic parents often damage their children. As the son of a drug-addicted narcissistic mother and totally absent father, I know how important it is to come to terms with your parent’s mental illness. A child who has a narcissistic father can be ignored frequently. Daughters of narcissistic fathers often describe feeling “unsatiated” when it to comes to getting what they needed from their fathers.
They never got enough and would have to compete with siblings for time with Dad. As a young child, Dad would comment on how beautiful you were. A parent is in a very good position to know if their child is a narcissist!
Daughters of narcissistic fathers are prone to blaming themselves and may even struggle with self-sabotage, negative self-talk, self-blame as well as various methods of self-harm in adulthood. This is part 1. Narcissists think of their own needs before anyone else’s including their own children. Narcissists are created in childhood largely as a result of family dynamics and the actions of the parents. When we were children, we looked up to our parents for support, encouragement, nurturing and love. Being a narcissistic father with children who look up to you is especially dangerous. If a child is hungry, this will come second to the father’s “need” to take … This can be especially dangerous if we’re dating another narcissistic person in adulthood. This is especially true if one of those parents is a narcissist and a divorce occurs.